Spouse/Significant Other — Spouses and significant others can have the most to gain or lose from your weight loss surgery. Your spouse may be 100% supportive and enjoy the journey right by your side. This happens when they don’t feel threatened by the physical changes and the often increased confidence that shines through as your excess weight disappears. Their support is apparent as they are willing to change household foods and may even surprise you with a new elliptical to make your exercise routine easier. This relationship will most likely strengthen with the changes that weight loss surgery often brings.
Other spouses may fear your improved appearance and confidence. They may love you the way that you are and interpret the positive changes in you as a rejection of them. They may not welcome new work or social opportunities that become available to you. Providing open communication and reassurances may be helpful. Do be aware that some spouses will attempt to sabotage your efforts in an effort to keep the status quo. Working with a trained therapist individually or as a couple may help to overcome these struggles.